Problems with Defense +

It seems that installing new sotware on a machine running CFP v3 will be an issue because Defense + does not stop launching pop ups for every single file an install wants to write.
This just happen to me installing Java Routines on an XP SP2 install, the firewall went nuts with the pop pups of defense +, and to add to the confusion all the window borders were RED so I didn’t know if I was installing Java or some program made by the devil!!!
Isn’t there a way to tell the HIPS that what you’re doing is legit -without having to mark the install as trusted-???
This is really bothering… yesterday I had to disable it going to Microsoft Update because I couldn’t do anything on the web, every single click launched a new alert !!!